2 August 2011

Passive, Aggressive or Assertive?

Let us start off with a few quotes...

‎"To know what you prefer, instead of humbly saying Amen to what the world tells you you ought to prefer, is to have kept your soul alive."
~ Robert Louis Stevenson


‎"When a man has so far corrupted and prostituted the chastity of his mind, as to profess things he does not believe, he has prepared himself for the commission of every other crime."
~ Thomas Paine


‎"The man who makes no mistakes does not usually make anything."
~ William Connor Magee, Bishop of Peterborough 1868


"One of the biggest obstacles to people improving their self-esteem is their constant need for approval by others. 
The problem with this is that until you believe in yourself, it will never matter what someone else says because the most important person doesn't believe it, You."
~ Catherine Pratt




ARE YOU PASSIVE?

Passive people do what others tell them to do or want them to do, whether they want to, or not.  They usually build up resentment and cause themselves even more unhappiness by doing this.  They often lack the confidence to stand up for themselves, others and their beliefs.  They are afraid that others will be upset by they opinions, and don't want to offend anybody, or cause conflict.  They don't think their opinions and beliefs are worthy of consideration.

ARE YOU AGGRESSIVE?

Aggressive people are very much the opposite.   They are not afraid of voicing their opinions in a loud, aggressive and untactful manner. They don't care if they trample on others, as long as they get their own way.  All they care about is being right and being in power.

ARE YOU ASSERTIVE?

Assertive people voice their opinions in a considerate and tactful manner.  They know what they are worth and what they want.  They know that it is beneficial to them to win people over rather than run them to the ground.  They are genuine, open-minded and confident leaders who stand up for themselves, others and their beliefs.

HOW TO BECOME ASSERTIVE

If you find it difficult to be assertive, it may be that you are lacking self-worth, and therefore don't think that you are worthy of being treated in a respectful manner.  You may not feel that you have the inner strength to stand up for what you want or believe in.   The courage to say NO... The thing is that we all do... Within us we have all the tools necessary to lead great lives!  We just have to dig them up and use them.  These tools save us much heartache and sorrow, and lead us to the lives of our dreams...

Learn more about fear, since avoiding being assertive is an act of fear:   Fear

Improve your self-esteem:   5 Ways To Improve Your Self-Esteem


Ideally, we would all prefer to be assertive, rather than passive or aggressive... 
What do you think?

Love, light and abundance! ♥

2 comments:

  1. The quote from Catherine Pratt can be observed in people every moment of every day... quite sad really!

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  2. Absolutely!! Approval is the greatest addiction there is... thanks for the beautiful photo :)

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