13 September 2012
Life Matters 4 U: Self-Improvement Products
Life Matters 4 U: Self-Improvement Products: What self-improvement tools are you using to improve yourself, and your life? Affirmation cards are one of the most effective ways to...
14 July 2012
ACCEPTANCE
"Acceptance of one's life has nothing to do with resignation; it does not mean running away from the struggle. On the contrary it means accepting it as it comes... To accept is to say yes to life in it's entirety."
~ Paul Tournier
"Today I know that I cannot control the ocean tides. I can only go with the flow... When I struggle and try to organise the Atlantic to my specifications, I sink. If I flail and thrash and growl and grumble, I go under. If I let go and float, I am borne aloft."
~ Marie Stilkind
Life is very much like a river... When we go along with the current, and take things as they come, we are able to give our full attention to everything around us. We can perceive one thing at a time, and take what we need from the river. We are calm and peaceful enough to see the beauty on the shore.. We appreciate it... We love it.... We are grateful for our life. We can steer ourselves in the direction that we desire to be. We have control over our lives. We accept every circumstance and event as a circumstance leading to something else. We can seek and find the best in everything and everyone.
Yet, when we decide to go against the current, we struggle... We swim and swim, and often stay in the same place. We begin to panic and thrash around. To lash out at life for giving us such hardship and struggle. We curse life, and fight against the river. A fight that can never be won. We don't have any control of the direction our lives are taking us. This fight is really with ourselves. We have chosen it. We think we are only worthy of hardship and struggle. We don't see the beauty of life passing us by on the shore... we are too absorbed in our struggle to survive.
Yes, we may hit a rock, or a tree stump in our journey down the river, but we take it for what it is.... a rock, or a tree stump. We know that it is there for a reason... Maybe to steer us in another direction... or maybe to stop us for a while to see something that we may have missed. There are no accidents or coincidences. Everything happens for a reason. A divine lesson that we must learn in order to grow and transcend to something bigger. A step closer to our true potential.
If we don't accept the lesson that the rock or tree stump provides, we become bitter, and fight against it.. or we give up. We complain and try to find a way to escape the lesson. We begin to swim upstream. We decide that we don't like downstream.. that we are not prepared to go there. We choose the path of suffering and pain... we choose the difficult path.
The great psychologist, Carl Jung, said: "What you resist persists." Very profound words. Meaning that whatever we are against, will keep coming to us, until we learn acceptance of what is. Our lesson must be learnt, so it will keep coming back, in different ways, until we learn it, and move on. If we avoid the lesson for too long, it will become stronger and more in our face, so that we are forced to take notice of it.
It all starts with us... We cannot change or accept anything in our reality until we learn to change and accept ourselves.
You may ask: How do I do that? A great exercise is to look in the mirror, and think of one thing that you don't accept about yourself... something that you are not happy about... something you would like to change... Now ask yourself this question: 'How would my life change if I accepted and loved this thing about myself?' Close your eyes and see yourself in the way you would like to be... doing the things that you would like to do. Feel the sensations of happiness that you would have... Now look in the mirror again, and look deeply into your own eyes and say: "I love and accept myself just as I am." Say this as many times as you can.... and keep saying it all through each day. Say thank you for your life.... say thank you for your body, mind and soul...It may be difficult at first, especially looking into your own eyes and saying these words... but it will get easier and easier as you begin to accept yourself. You will begin to smile at yourself, and you will begin to believe what you are saying.
You will begin to see yourself with the eyes of love. You will begin to accept others as they are... and the world as it is... You will complain less, and be grateful more often. You will begin to uncover and perceive a greatness and beauty in yourself, and the world... a beauty and greatness you could never have imagined. Eventually this will be your default, and you will catch yourself when you begin to complain, and change it to gratitude.
Love, light and great abundance ♥
~ Paul Tournier
"Today I know that I cannot control the ocean tides. I can only go with the flow... When I struggle and try to organise the Atlantic to my specifications, I sink. If I flail and thrash and growl and grumble, I go under. If I let go and float, I am borne aloft."
~ Marie Stilkind
Life is very much like a river... When we go along with the current, and take things as they come, we are able to give our full attention to everything around us. We can perceive one thing at a time, and take what we need from the river. We are calm and peaceful enough to see the beauty on the shore.. We appreciate it... We love it.... We are grateful for our life. We can steer ourselves in the direction that we desire to be. We have control over our lives. We accept every circumstance and event as a circumstance leading to something else. We can seek and find the best in everything and everyone.
Yet, when we decide to go against the current, we struggle... We swim and swim, and often stay in the same place. We begin to panic and thrash around. To lash out at life for giving us such hardship and struggle. We curse life, and fight against the river. A fight that can never be won. We don't have any control of the direction our lives are taking us. This fight is really with ourselves. We have chosen it. We think we are only worthy of hardship and struggle. We don't see the beauty of life passing us by on the shore... we are too absorbed in our struggle to survive.
Yes, we may hit a rock, or a tree stump in our journey down the river, but we take it for what it is.... a rock, or a tree stump. We know that it is there for a reason... Maybe to steer us in another direction... or maybe to stop us for a while to see something that we may have missed. There are no accidents or coincidences. Everything happens for a reason. A divine lesson that we must learn in order to grow and transcend to something bigger. A step closer to our true potential.
If we don't accept the lesson that the rock or tree stump provides, we become bitter, and fight against it.. or we give up. We complain and try to find a way to escape the lesson. We begin to swim upstream. We decide that we don't like downstream.. that we are not prepared to go there. We choose the path of suffering and pain... we choose the difficult path.
The great psychologist, Carl Jung, said: "What you resist persists." Very profound words. Meaning that whatever we are against, will keep coming to us, until we learn acceptance of what is. Our lesson must be learnt, so it will keep coming back, in different ways, until we learn it, and move on. If we avoid the lesson for too long, it will become stronger and more in our face, so that we are forced to take notice of it.
It all starts with us... We cannot change or accept anything in our reality until we learn to change and accept ourselves.
You may ask: How do I do that? A great exercise is to look in the mirror, and think of one thing that you don't accept about yourself... something that you are not happy about... something you would like to change... Now ask yourself this question: 'How would my life change if I accepted and loved this thing about myself?' Close your eyes and see yourself in the way you would like to be... doing the things that you would like to do. Feel the sensations of happiness that you would have... Now look in the mirror again, and look deeply into your own eyes and say: "I love and accept myself just as I am." Say this as many times as you can.... and keep saying it all through each day. Say thank you for your life.... say thank you for your body, mind and soul...It may be difficult at first, especially looking into your own eyes and saying these words... but it will get easier and easier as you begin to accept yourself. You will begin to smile at yourself, and you will begin to believe what you are saying.
You will begin to see yourself with the eyes of love. You will begin to accept others as they are... and the world as it is... You will complain less, and be grateful more often. You will begin to uncover and perceive a greatness and beauty in yourself, and the world... a beauty and greatness you could never have imagined. Eventually this will be your default, and you will catch yourself when you begin to complain, and change it to gratitude.
Love, light and great abundance ♥
29 June 2012
COMPASSION VS PITY
When you are feeling down and depressed, hurt... or sad about something, and someone comes over to you, sees your distress and says 'Oh shame' and gives you a hug, how do you feel? Most of us, if not all of us, feel even sadder, and will often burst into tears. Why do we react this way?
When we are feeling sad or down, we are really dissatisfied with some event or circumstance in our life. This means we are against what is happening. We see what is happening as some sort of threat to us. We feel fear... and thus feel victimised. We feel as though we don't have any control over the situation. We have made ourselves into victims. We have said 'I give up'... or 'There is nothing I can do'... 'I have no control over the situation'. We have put ourselves on a low energy frequency, and thus attract and connect with others on a low energy frequency.
Is that really what you want? Do you want to be surrounded by people who expect and want the best of you; or people that expect and want the worst of you?
Being in a victim mindset means that we are in scarcity mode. We have disconnected ourselves from our higher intelligence, our divine creator, God. When we are in need of something, it means we don't have it. When we don't have something, we are in scarcity mode, as opposed to abundance, which is the knowing that God provides for all of our needs.
Now when someone comes along and says 'Oh shame.... poor you', or curses the situation or person that is causing this unhappiness, for example; what we unconsciously or consciously think is this: 'See, it is true, I don't have any control over anything, I am a victim. This person or situation causing me this pain is a tyrant. This person feeling pity for me also sees me as a victim, and thus feels sorry for me. I have a right to feel this way'. So our belief that we are a victim is strengthened.
When someone curses and aids you in blaming a situation or another person, they are telling you that you are powerless, that somebody or something else, is controlling you. They are helping you to give your power away.
On the other hand, if someone were to be callous and say, 'Stop feeling sorry for yourself', we would feel unloved and victimised too. So what would be a beneficial manner in treating a sad person?
"If you give a man a fish, you feed him for a day. If you teach a man to fish, you feed him for a lifetime."
~ Lao Tzu
True compassion is not pity, but rather the belief that we all live in abundance, even if someone else thinks they are living in a Universe of scarcity. It is the knowing that the 'victim' is in abundance, but doesn't realise it at that moment. True compassion is being able to put yourself in someone else's shoes, to understand and to be objective. True compassion is an understanding of the pain that the victim is feeling, yet a knowing that all is well. Isn't it better then to acknowledge understanding, but to let the victim know that there is always a solution, and motivate the victim to find the solution? Feeling pity for someone only disempowers them, because you are confirming that their situation is indeed pitiful. They thus feel weak and unable to solve the problem. Motivating someone to find the solution gives them their power back. They realise that you have faith in their ability to solve the problem, and begin to acquire this faith in themselves, and they feel empowered.
This may seem hard and callous to some. The question is, are you being compassionate, and thus genuinely caring for someone; or are you pitying someone, which is not genuine concern, but the feeding of your own ego? Making someone rely on you... making yourself seem like a caring person, when indeed you are doing more harm than good.
Be a being of compassion, and love, and you have contributed to a greater universe of peace and abundance. You have put yourself on a higher energy frequency, and thus attract people that are on this same higher frequency. We are very much like radios, we connect on the frequency that we are tuned into.
What frequency is your radio on?
When we are feeling sad or down, we are really dissatisfied with some event or circumstance in our life. This means we are against what is happening. We see what is happening as some sort of threat to us. We feel fear... and thus feel victimised. We feel as though we don't have any control over the situation. We have made ourselves into victims. We have said 'I give up'... or 'There is nothing I can do'... 'I have no control over the situation'. We have put ourselves on a low energy frequency, and thus attract and connect with others on a low energy frequency.
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"We often think of peace as the absence of war;
that if the powerful countries would reduce their arsenals, we could
have peace. But if we look deeply into the weapons, we see our own minds
- our prejudices, fears, and ignorance. Even if we transported all the
bombs to the moon, the roots of war and the reasons for bombs would
still be here, in our hearts and minds, and sooner or later we would
make new bombs. Seek to become more aware of what causes anger and
separation, and what overcomes them. Root out the violence in your life,
and learn to live compassionately and mindfully."
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
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Being in a victim mindset means that we are in scarcity mode. We have disconnected ourselves from our higher intelligence, our divine creator, God. When we are in need of something, it means we don't have it. When we don't have something, we are in scarcity mode, as opposed to abundance, which is the knowing that God provides for all of our needs.
Now when someone comes along and says 'Oh shame.... poor you', or curses the situation or person that is causing this unhappiness, for example; what we unconsciously or consciously think is this: 'See, it is true, I don't have any control over anything, I am a victim. This person or situation causing me this pain is a tyrant. This person feeling pity for me also sees me as a victim, and thus feels sorry for me. I have a right to feel this way'. So our belief that we are a victim is strengthened.
When someone curses and aids you in blaming a situation or another person, they are telling you that you are powerless, that somebody or something else, is controlling you. They are helping you to give your power away.
On the other hand, if someone were to be callous and say, 'Stop feeling sorry for yourself', we would feel unloved and victimised too. So what would be a beneficial manner in treating a sad person?
"If you give a man a fish, you feed him for a day. If you teach a man to fish, you feed him for a lifetime."
~ Lao Tzu
True compassion is not pity, but rather the belief that we all live in abundance, even if someone else thinks they are living in a Universe of scarcity. It is the knowing that the 'victim' is in abundance, but doesn't realise it at that moment. True compassion is being able to put yourself in someone else's shoes, to understand and to be objective. True compassion is an understanding of the pain that the victim is feeling, yet a knowing that all is well. Isn't it better then to acknowledge understanding, but to let the victim know that there is always a solution, and motivate the victim to find the solution? Feeling pity for someone only disempowers them, because you are confirming that their situation is indeed pitiful. They thus feel weak and unable to solve the problem. Motivating someone to find the solution gives them their power back. They realise that you have faith in their ability to solve the problem, and begin to acquire this faith in themselves, and they feel empowered.
This may seem hard and callous to some. The question is, are you being compassionate, and thus genuinely caring for someone; or are you pitying someone, which is not genuine concern, but the feeding of your own ego? Making someone rely on you... making yourself seem like a caring person, when indeed you are doing more harm than good.
Be a being of compassion, and love, and you have contributed to a greater universe of peace and abundance. You have put yourself on a higher energy frequency, and thus attract people that are on this same higher frequency. We are very much like radios, we connect on the frequency that we are tuned into.
What frequency is your radio on?
1 June 2012
FORGIVENESS
FORGIVE YOURSELF INTO GREATNESS
Are you your best friend... or your greatest enemy?
Forgiveness is a rebirth of hope,
a reorganisation of thought,
and a reconstruction of dreams.
Once forgiving begins,
dreams can be rebuilt.
When forgiving is complete,
meaning has been extracted
from the worst of experiences
and used to create a new set of moral rules
and a new interpretation of life's events.
~ Beverley Flanigan
Forgiving oneself is the most difficult type of forgiving. We are often harder on ourselves than on others. We beat ourselves up for not being perfect. For making mistakes... for not knowing better, and sometimes for knowing better, but still going ahead with the action in question.
When we feel hurt, rejection, frustration and pain, we often lash out in anger and say and do things that we wouldn't usually say or do. We are blinded by our anger. It is like having blinders on... all we see is what is directly before us and we don't like it. We don't think straight. We react in the moment, instead of taking the time to gather ourselves. Regret comes once we have calmed down and realised what we have done, and the consequences of our actions. However, it is too late... what is done is done, and cannot be undone.
In a way, forgiving is only for the brave.
It is for those people who are willing to confront their pain,
accept themselves as permanently changed,
and make difficult choices.
Countless individuals are satisfied to go on resenting
and hating people who wrong them.
Forgivers, on the other hand,
are not content to be stuck in a quagmire.
They reject the possibility that the rest of their lives
will be determined by the unjust and injurious acts
of another person.
~ Gordon Dalbey
How does it serve us to beat ourselves up about what cannot be undone? Does it benefit us in any way? What good then is regret?
Regret is just something that puts limits on us... that stops us from reaching our full potential... from connecting with our inner power. It stunts our emotional and spiritual growth, and keeps us from the freedom we are worthy of.... the freedom we so rightly deserve.
You don't have to know how to forgive... you just need to be willing to forgive. You don't have to tell those you forgive that you have forgiven them. Your forgiving is a private matter between you and your ego. It is a burden that you carry, so there is no need to tell people you have forgiven them. However, if you feel the need to do so... there is no reason for you not to do so. Remember, though, not to expect others to be as forgiving as you are. If they are not, don't permit that to bother you. We are all doing the best we can with the knowledge and experience we have. People don't often learn by being told, but by example, and by living through the lessons, when they are ready... in their own sweet time.
"All the years you have waited for them to
'make it up to you'
and all the energy you have expended
trying to make them change
(or make them pay)
kept the old wounds from healing
and gave pain from the past free reign
to shape, and even damage your life.
And still, they may not have changed.
Nothing you have done has made them change.
Indeed, they may never change.
Inner peace is found by changing yourself,
not the people who hurt you.
And you change for yourself,
for the joy, serenity, peace of mind,
understanding, compassion, laughter,
and bright future that you get."
~ Lewis B. Smedes
Forgiving someone for something does not mean that you have to tolerate their behaviour towards you. We all have the right to choose how we are treated. We also have the right and obligation towards ourselves to see things from an objective point of view. Remember that another person's behaviour towards you has nothing to do with you. It is not because of you that they behave as they do. They are behaving according to their beliefs about themselves and about life... their own issues. We always have the choice to be offended, or not. Being offended means that we feel judged... and herein lies judgement of ourselves.
We have the choice of whether to ignore something... or to react. Reaction is based on strong emotions... in this case, strong negative emotions. Whereas, if we take the time to calm down and put ourselves outside of the situation, we receive guidance from a higher power. We then act from inspiration, rather than emotion, or past experience.
Everyone that is in our lives is here for a reason... even those we see as petty tyrants. They are here to teach us something about ourselves. The people in our lives are but reflections of the things we feel about ourselves. What we hate or dislike in another is the mirror image of something we hate or dislike about ourselves. We need to look inward and find what feelings of unworthiness we have about ourselves, and heal these by learning better self-love.
Blessings of love on your journey of forgiveness ♥
Are you your best friend... or your greatest enemy?
Forgiveness is a rebirth of hope,
a reorganisation of thought,
and a reconstruction of dreams.
Once forgiving begins,
dreams can be rebuilt.
When forgiving is complete,
meaning has been extracted
from the worst of experiences
and used to create a new set of moral rules
and a new interpretation of life's events.
~ Beverley Flanigan
Forgiving oneself is the most difficult type of forgiving. We are often harder on ourselves than on others. We beat ourselves up for not being perfect. For making mistakes... for not knowing better, and sometimes for knowing better, but still going ahead with the action in question.
When we feel hurt, rejection, frustration and pain, we often lash out in anger and say and do things that we wouldn't usually say or do. We are blinded by our anger. It is like having blinders on... all we see is what is directly before us and we don't like it. We don't think straight. We react in the moment, instead of taking the time to gather ourselves. Regret comes once we have calmed down and realised what we have done, and the consequences of our actions. However, it is too late... what is done is done, and cannot be undone.
In a way, forgiving is only for the brave.
It is for those people who are willing to confront their pain,
accept themselves as permanently changed,
and make difficult choices.
Countless individuals are satisfied to go on resenting
and hating people who wrong them.
Forgivers, on the other hand,
are not content to be stuck in a quagmire.
They reject the possibility that the rest of their lives
will be determined by the unjust and injurious acts
of another person.
~ Gordon Dalbey
How does it serve us to beat ourselves up about what cannot be undone? Does it benefit us in any way? What good then is regret?
Regret is just something that puts limits on us... that stops us from reaching our full potential... from connecting with our inner power. It stunts our emotional and spiritual growth, and keeps us from the freedom we are worthy of.... the freedom we so rightly deserve.
You don't have to know how to forgive... you just need to be willing to forgive. You don't have to tell those you forgive that you have forgiven them. Your forgiving is a private matter between you and your ego. It is a burden that you carry, so there is no need to tell people you have forgiven them. However, if you feel the need to do so... there is no reason for you not to do so. Remember, though, not to expect others to be as forgiving as you are. If they are not, don't permit that to bother you. We are all doing the best we can with the knowledge and experience we have. People don't often learn by being told, but by example, and by living through the lessons, when they are ready... in their own sweet time.
"All the years you have waited for them to
'make it up to you'
and all the energy you have expended
trying to make them change
(or make them pay)
kept the old wounds from healing
and gave pain from the past free reign
to shape, and even damage your life.
And still, they may not have changed.
Nothing you have done has made them change.
Indeed, they may never change.
Inner peace is found by changing yourself,
not the people who hurt you.
And you change for yourself,
for the joy, serenity, peace of mind,
understanding, compassion, laughter,
and bright future that you get."
~ Lewis B. Smedes
Forgiving someone for something does not mean that you have to tolerate their behaviour towards you. We all have the right to choose how we are treated. We also have the right and obligation towards ourselves to see things from an objective point of view. Remember that another person's behaviour towards you has nothing to do with you. It is not because of you that they behave as they do. They are behaving according to their beliefs about themselves and about life... their own issues. We always have the choice to be offended, or not. Being offended means that we feel judged... and herein lies judgement of ourselves.
We have the choice of whether to ignore something... or to react. Reaction is based on strong emotions... in this case, strong negative emotions. Whereas, if we take the time to calm down and put ourselves outside of the situation, we receive guidance from a higher power. We then act from inspiration, rather than emotion, or past experience.
Everyone that is in our lives is here for a reason... even those we see as petty tyrants. They are here to teach us something about ourselves. The people in our lives are but reflections of the things we feel about ourselves. What we hate or dislike in another is the mirror image of something we hate or dislike about ourselves. We need to look inward and find what feelings of unworthiness we have about ourselves, and heal these by learning better self-love.
Blessings of love on your journey of forgiveness ♥
12 March 2012
ABUNDANCE VS SCARCITY
Are you living with beliefs of abundance or scarcity?
Abundance is a word that most people very rarely hear. We have been so conditioned to a world of scarcity, so focused on scarcity, that most humans have no idea what abundance is. Everyone we talk to, talks of scarcity of some sort. We only need to put the television on to see scarcity in the form of the news. The adverts tell us that we need this and that in order to be acceptable. The movies focus on violence and crime. The dramas and soapies focus on problem after problem... as if they are things to be revered.
"Abundance is not something we acquire, it is something we tune into."
~ Dr Wayne Dyer
What is abundance?
"Life in abundance comes only through great love."
~ Elbert Hubbard
Abundance is a belief that we tune into. It is something stronger than faith, that this Universe is good, and safe, and providing for our every need. This faith requires that, no matter what our reality may look like, sound like, feel like, we are indeed clothed in protection, love and peace. It is the trust that everything is right, and nothing can go wrong. That everything happens for our higher good. That there is an infinite power that has our best interests at heart. No matter your religion or non religion. It can be called whatever resounds with you. It is only the ego that is consumed with labelling. This higher power has no ego, and thus no care for what it is called. It just is!
"Expect your every need to be met. Expect the answer to every problem, expect abundance on every level."
~ Eileen Caddy
What is scarcity?
Many people say they have faith in God, but they complain endlessly about not having enough, or about all the crime in the world. Where is the faith in God? True faith is not something one turns on and off at will. It is something that consumes everything we think, everything we say, everything we do. There can be do doubt or regret in faith. For then it is not faith. Herein lies scarcity.
"Not what we have, but what we enjoy, constitutes our abundance."
~ Epicurus
Scarcity is the belief that people have that they live in a world of crime, pain, hurt, poverty. This belief shows up in complaints about not having enough. It shows up when we blame others for what is happening to us. By blaming someone else, we are basically saying that our higher power, or God, or our creator, is not in control of our lives, that the person we blame is. I ask again, where is the faith in that?
Living a life of abundance means focusing on the positive, good things in the world. Embracing them, talking of them, living them. It means being in a state of love, as opposed to a state of fear. It means looking for the best in everything and everyone, and ignoring what we don't like. It means imagining our world to be exactly as we want it, and believing that it will be so. It means accepting that although things don't always seem to be going our way at the moment, that ultimately they are for our best. Accepting that lessons are here for us to reach our full potential, and that if we learn from them, it is for our better purpose.
"Whatever we are waiting for ~ peace of mind, contentment, grace, the inner awareness of simple abundance ~ it will surely come to us, but only when we are ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart."
~ Sarah Ban Breathnach
Abundance is saying thank you, and appreciating all we are, and all we have. It is the faith that our every needs will be met. It is not positive thinking, it is way beyond that. It is thinking abundance, talking abundance, living abundance. It is living as if today is your last day.
May you shine your light of abundance on the world today, for in doing so, you will be creating the abundant world that you desire.
Love, light and abundance ♥
Abundance is a word that most people very rarely hear. We have been so conditioned to a world of scarcity, so focused on scarcity, that most humans have no idea what abundance is. Everyone we talk to, talks of scarcity of some sort. We only need to put the television on to see scarcity in the form of the news. The adverts tell us that we need this and that in order to be acceptable. The movies focus on violence and crime. The dramas and soapies focus on problem after problem... as if they are things to be revered.
"Abundance is not something we acquire, it is something we tune into."
~ Dr Wayne Dyer
What is abundance?
"Life in abundance comes only through great love."
~ Elbert Hubbard
Abundance is a belief that we tune into. It is something stronger than faith, that this Universe is good, and safe, and providing for our every need. This faith requires that, no matter what our reality may look like, sound like, feel like, we are indeed clothed in protection, love and peace. It is the trust that everything is right, and nothing can go wrong. That everything happens for our higher good. That there is an infinite power that has our best interests at heart. No matter your religion or non religion. It can be called whatever resounds with you. It is only the ego that is consumed with labelling. This higher power has no ego, and thus no care for what it is called. It just is!
"Expect your every need to be met. Expect the answer to every problem, expect abundance on every level."
~ Eileen Caddy
What is scarcity?
Many people say they have faith in God, but they complain endlessly about not having enough, or about all the crime in the world. Where is the faith in God? True faith is not something one turns on and off at will. It is something that consumes everything we think, everything we say, everything we do. There can be do doubt or regret in faith. For then it is not faith. Herein lies scarcity.
"Not what we have, but what we enjoy, constitutes our abundance."
~ Epicurus
Scarcity is the belief that people have that they live in a world of crime, pain, hurt, poverty. This belief shows up in complaints about not having enough. It shows up when we blame others for what is happening to us. By blaming someone else, we are basically saying that our higher power, or God, or our creator, is not in control of our lives, that the person we blame is. I ask again, where is the faith in that?
Living a life of abundance means focusing on the positive, good things in the world. Embracing them, talking of them, living them. It means being in a state of love, as opposed to a state of fear. It means looking for the best in everything and everyone, and ignoring what we don't like. It means imagining our world to be exactly as we want it, and believing that it will be so. It means accepting that although things don't always seem to be going our way at the moment, that ultimately they are for our best. Accepting that lessons are here for us to reach our full potential, and that if we learn from them, it is for our better purpose.
"Whatever we are waiting for ~ peace of mind, contentment, grace, the inner awareness of simple abundance ~ it will surely come to us, but only when we are ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart."
~ Sarah Ban Breathnach
Abundance is saying thank you, and appreciating all we are, and all we have. It is the faith that our every needs will be met. It is not positive thinking, it is way beyond that. It is thinking abundance, talking abundance, living abundance. It is living as if today is your last day.
May you shine your light of abundance on the world today, for in doing so, you will be creating the abundant world that you desire.
Love, light and abundance ♥
6 February 2012
BELIEFS
What are beliefs?
A belief is an idea or thought that you have become committed to. Ideas and thoughts can come and go, but if you think about them and agree to them, you commit yourself to them. Most of our beliefs are received from other people, teachers at school, our religion, our parents, our peers. Our beliefs are our truths. They may not be the truth, but they are what we perceive as the truth. They are what we base our lives on... what shapes our lives. They are what attract the circumstances we have in our lives. We have many areas of life: health, wealth, family and friends, hobbies, relationships, career, personal space, contribution and spirituality. We have thousands and thousands of beliefs, some that we are not even aware of, in all these areas of our lives.
You may believe that you are ugly. This belief will keep you from enjoying a social life. You will think that people will look at you and reject you or make fun of you. You could very well be a very good looking person to others, but this is your belief. This belief could have been formed when you were a child and some other child told you that you are ugly. They may not have believed this themselves, but might have just said that to hurt you, as children so often are prone to do. This would have hurt you and you would have thought about it often, and started to believe it. Other incidents may have strengthened this belief. You would have acted on this belief by limiting yourself to circumstances that you feel comfortable in.
"You can have anything you want if you will give up the belief that you can't have it."
~ Dr Robert Anthony
Are your beliefs serving you?
Take a piece of paper and a pen and write down all your dreams. All the things you would like to do. Now look at each one, analyse it, and find out which of your beliefs are holding you back from doing those things or accomplishing those dreams. Beliefs are not set in stone... they are only our truths, and we can change them at any time. Now write down the belief that is limiting your life, and next to it, or below it, write down the belief that would make your dream possible. It would be the opposite of the belief that is holding you back.
Eg. Many people believe that they must have a job, and that they would not be able to own a successful business. That they must be content with surviving, rather than being happy and successful.
This sounds really crazy, but weren't all the most successful people rather crazy...lol! Close your eyes and imagine that you have a cape behind you. Yes, you.... Now anything that you can imagine, you can do! You just have to instill the belief. Go on, reach your full potential! YOU CAN!!
Love, light and abundance :)
A belief is an idea or thought that you have become committed to. Ideas and thoughts can come and go, but if you think about them and agree to them, you commit yourself to them. Most of our beliefs are received from other people, teachers at school, our religion, our parents, our peers. Our beliefs are our truths. They may not be the truth, but they are what we perceive as the truth. They are what we base our lives on... what shapes our lives. They are what attract the circumstances we have in our lives. We have many areas of life: health, wealth, family and friends, hobbies, relationships, career, personal space, contribution and spirituality. We have thousands and thousands of beliefs, some that we are not even aware of, in all these areas of our lives.
You may believe that you are ugly. This belief will keep you from enjoying a social life. You will think that people will look at you and reject you or make fun of you. You could very well be a very good looking person to others, but this is your belief. This belief could have been formed when you were a child and some other child told you that you are ugly. They may not have believed this themselves, but might have just said that to hurt you, as children so often are prone to do. This would have hurt you and you would have thought about it often, and started to believe it. Other incidents may have strengthened this belief. You would have acted on this belief by limiting yourself to circumstances that you feel comfortable in.
"You can have anything you want if you will give up the belief that you can't have it."
~ Dr Robert Anthony
Are your beliefs serving you?
Take a piece of paper and a pen and write down all your dreams. All the things you would like to do. Now look at each one, analyse it, and find out which of your beliefs are holding you back from doing those things or accomplishing those dreams. Beliefs are not set in stone... they are only our truths, and we can change them at any time. Now write down the belief that is limiting your life, and next to it, or below it, write down the belief that would make your dream possible. It would be the opposite of the belief that is holding you back.
Eg. Many people believe that they must have a job, and that they would not be able to own a successful business. That they must be content with surviving, rather than being happy and successful.
This sounds really crazy, but weren't all the most successful people rather crazy...lol! Close your eyes and imagine that you have a cape behind you. Yes, you.... Now anything that you can imagine, you can do! You just have to instill the belief. Go on, reach your full potential! YOU CAN!!
Love, light and abundance :)
BELIEFS ~ WHERE DID WE GET THEM?
Our mostly well-meaning parents, teachers, peers, television, etc, have instilled certain beliefs in our minds. These beliefs are based on the social ideologies of the time, or era. We are taught that certain behaviours, images, fashions, body shapes, religions, discriminations, ways of thinking, etc, are acceptable; and others are not acceptable.
"The outer conditions of a person's life will always be found to reflect their inner beliefs."
~ James Allen
A great example is the 'flower power' of the sixties. It was acceptable to be close to nature, dress plainly and to speak one's mind, among other things. Technological inventions increased, and now we are in the age of technology. People are more materialistic, less interested in nature. More involved with working long hours to make more money to pay for their expensive life styles. Life is a rush.... and the best things in life, that are free, have been mostly left behind... There isn't much time for our kids, for nature, for compassion...
"Circumstances do not make a man, they reveal him."
~ James Allen
Our ideas and beliefs change every few years according to our social conditioning. Some states in the USA don't want children to be schooled at home because they feel that all children should be indoctrinated with the same ideas. What ever happened to creativity, individuality?
Advertisements on television make us think that we have to be slim. That we have to possess a particular car or phone, etc to be cool.... to fit in. Many people even raise their children from very young to fit in with society. So does that mean that if the child's peers take drugs, that is is ok? It is much like saying to a child: 'You can swear, but only in certain places and under certain circumstances'. Isn't it better to teach a child to think and make his own decisions, whether they fit in with society or not?
Many children are labelled as ADD or ADHD because they want to play and be active, as children should, rather than sitting in front of the TV all day, being quiet and out of the way. They are fed junk food, processed foods, sweets, carbonated drinks instead of healthy foods. They are often called stupid by teachers, parents and peers. These children are not stimulated, read to, nor taught to concentrate. It is easier to take a pill to fix these problems, but even pills have their problems, like side effects, etc.
In many cases, we are taught to accept these ideas without question. I grew up this way...fearing all sorts of terrible punishments and consequences, that I now know were just fear motivation, and thus just made up... When I was twenty years old, I witnessed a man in our office grab a book that a lady was reading, and tear it to pieces, saying it was evil. Since then this kind of thing has happened many times.... Of course, being the curious person I am... I had to find out what the big secret was.... Many questions crossed my mind, but I never really pursued them. The opportunity only came a few years later when I started studying a teachers degree, and discovered some amazing things... then life coaching... and now the discoveries don't stop...
"Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives."
~ Anthony Robbins
"Blind belief in authority is the greatest enemy of truth."
~ Albert Einstein
That took care of most of my fears... and I discovered unconditional love. Love for myself and for others. An understanding of why people do what they do. When we understand ourselves and others, we become more compassionate, and more loving. Where there is love, there cannot be fear. Where there is faith, there cannot be fear.
When we feel that we are expected to behave in a particular manner, we feel confined, in search of something, but we don't know what. We feel that we are being judged, and so judge ourselves. If we didn't judge ourselves, we wouldn't care when other's judge us. It is in this judging of ourselves that we create self-suffering.
When we change our beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world, from limiting beliefs, to beliefs that serve us, we stop judging ourselves and live happier, more fulfilling lives. We lose the fear of tackling new things. We gain the courage to look all those old fears square in the face, and conquer them.
Where there is no fear, love thrives. Love for ourselves, others, animals, our enviroment, our circumstances. our world. When we give love, we receive love. Where there is love, there is great happiness. Obstacles become adventurous challenges, and often go by unnoticed.
Don't for a minute think that your beliefs don't affect others. It is because of these limiting beliefs, these fear beliefs, that we have so much war, hatred, crime, depression and unhappiness around us. We attract what we are, what we believe, what we do... Our thoughts lay the foundation for our reality. The Bible tells us 'As a man thinketh, so he is'. Let us start to change our reality, our world, to a reality of peace and love... One thought at a time...
The most efficient way of changing a belief is by using affirmations. Yes, many people say affirmations don't work.... of course they don't work if you don't use them correctly. Affirmations must be repeated about 40 times a day, daily, for 40 days to become a belief. An mp3 player is a great way of achieving this. I wouldn't give mine away for all the money in the world.
Love, light and abundance ♥
"The outer conditions of a person's life will always be found to reflect their inner beliefs."
~ James Allen
~ James Allen
Our ideas and beliefs change every few years according to our social conditioning. Some states in the USA don't want children to be schooled at home because they feel that all children should be indoctrinated with the same ideas. What ever happened to creativity, individuality?
Advertisements on television make us think that we have to be slim. That we have to possess a particular car or phone, etc to be cool.... to fit in. Many people even raise their children from very young to fit in with society. So does that mean that if the child's peers take drugs, that is is ok? It is much like saying to a child: 'You can swear, but only in certain places and under certain circumstances'. Isn't it better to teach a child to think and make his own decisions, whether they fit in with society or not?
Many children are labelled as ADD or ADHD because they want to play and be active, as children should, rather than sitting in front of the TV all day, being quiet and out of the way. They are fed junk food, processed foods, sweets, carbonated drinks instead of healthy foods. They are often called stupid by teachers, parents and peers. These children are not stimulated, read to, nor taught to concentrate. It is easier to take a pill to fix these problems, but even pills have their problems, like side effects, etc.
In many cases, we are taught to accept these ideas without question. I grew up this way...fearing all sorts of terrible punishments and consequences, that I now know were just fear motivation, and thus just made up... When I was twenty years old, I witnessed a man in our office grab a book that a lady was reading, and tear it to pieces, saying it was evil. Since then this kind of thing has happened many times.... Of course, being the curious person I am... I had to find out what the big secret was.... Many questions crossed my mind, but I never really pursued them. The opportunity only came a few years later when I started studying a teachers degree, and discovered some amazing things... then life coaching... and now the discoveries don't stop...
"Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives."
~ Anthony Robbins
"Blind belief in authority is the greatest enemy of truth."
~ Albert Einstein
That took care of most of my fears... and I discovered unconditional love. Love for myself and for others. An understanding of why people do what they do. When we understand ourselves and others, we become more compassionate, and more loving. Where there is love, there cannot be fear. Where there is faith, there cannot be fear.
When we feel that we are expected to behave in a particular manner, we feel confined, in search of something, but we don't know what. We feel that we are being judged, and so judge ourselves. If we didn't judge ourselves, we wouldn't care when other's judge us. It is in this judging of ourselves that we create self-suffering.
When we change our beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world, from limiting beliefs, to beliefs that serve us, we stop judging ourselves and live happier, more fulfilling lives. We lose the fear of tackling new things. We gain the courage to look all those old fears square in the face, and conquer them.
Where there is no fear, love thrives. Love for ourselves, others, animals, our enviroment, our circumstances. our world. When we give love, we receive love. Where there is love, there is great happiness. Obstacles become adventurous challenges, and often go by unnoticed.
Don't for a minute think that your beliefs don't affect others. It is because of these limiting beliefs, these fear beliefs, that we have so much war, hatred, crime, depression and unhappiness around us. We attract what we are, what we believe, what we do... Our thoughts lay the foundation for our reality. The Bible tells us 'As a man thinketh, so he is'. Let us start to change our reality, our world, to a reality of peace and love... One thought at a time...
The most efficient way of changing a belief is by using affirmations. Yes, many people say affirmations don't work.... of course they don't work if you don't use them correctly. Affirmations must be repeated about 40 times a day, daily, for 40 days to become a belief. An mp3 player is a great way of achieving this. I wouldn't give mine away for all the money in the world.
Love, light and abundance ♥
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